Abandoned for Being a Girl – Uganda
Sitaraya Fiona
My name is Sitaraya Fiona. I come from Millo Village in Terego District, Uganda. I am an intern with the African Adolescent Girl Fund (AGF) at St. Mary’s Assumpta Girls’ Secondary School—and every step of my journey has been a fight against a system that was never meant for girls like me.
In my village, harmful cultural beliefs still linger—ones that devalue girls and women, that crush dreams before they’re even spoken aloud. I know this pain intimately. My father abandoned my siblings and me simply because we were girls. To him, daughters held no value. In his eyes, we were a disappointment, unable to carry on his name or legacy. So he left us.
With nowhere else to go, my mother made the brave choice to leave him and return to her parents’ home. But life there was no easier. In a community where girls are seen as burdens, I grew up feeling small, inferior—like I had to apologize just for being born a girl.
As the eldest child, the weight of our survival fell on me. I worked endlessly to support my mother and younger siblings. But school fees? They were a constant mountain we couldn’t climb. My mother, a humble peasant farmer, tried everything she could, but we were always behind. I fought to stay in school, scraping by, one term at a time. I convinced myself that if I could just finish Senior Six, that would be enough. University? That was a luxury I could never afford to dream of.
All the while, my dream of becoming a nutritionist quietly faded. My mother, even in her failing health, never stopped encouraging us. She believed in the possibility of a better life for us, even when the odds were stacked high. But the weight of reality was crushing. I felt stuck—trapped between responsibility, poverty, and a future that seemed to be slipping through my fingers.
And then—just when I was ready to surrender—something miraculous happened.
One day, I received the news that changed everything: I had been selected for the AGF internship program, which would sponsor my university education. I was speechless. It was a moment I will never forget—like the sun breaking through after years of darkness. A door I thought would always be closed had finally opened.
AGF gave me more than just a scholarship. They gave me back my voice, my confidence, and the belief that I mattered. That my dreams mattered. Today, I am walking boldly toward my goal of becoming a nutritionist—not just for myself, but for my community. I want to return to my village and challenge the mindset that girls are less. I want to prove that we, too, can be leaders, changemakers, and professionals. That we are not a burden—we are a blessing.
This opportunity is bigger than me. It is a symbol of hope for every girl in Millo Village who was told she couldn’t. Thanks to AGF, I now know that I can—and so can they.
To AGF, thank you for believing in me. You have given me the courage to rise—and I will carry other girls with me as I climb.